“There are many good Church members who have been divorced. I speak first to them. We know that many of you are innocent victims—members whose former spouses persistently betrayed sacred covenants or abandoned or refused to perform marriage responsibilities for an extended period. Members who have experienced such abuse have firsthand knowledge of circumstances worse than divorce.

When a marriage is dead and beyond hope of resuscitation, it is needful to have a means to end it. I saw examples of this in the Philippines. Two days after their temple marriage, a husband deserted his young wife and has not been heard from for over 10 years. A married woman fled and obtained a divorce in another country, but her husband, who remained behind, is still married in the eyes of the Philippine law. Since there is no provision for divorce in that country, these innocent victims of desertion have no way to end their married status and go forward with their lives.”

“Now I speak to married members, especially to any who may be considering divorce.

I strongly urge you and those who advise you to face up to the reality that for most marriage problems, the remedy is not divorce but repentance. Often the cause is not incompatibility but selfishness. The first step is not separation but reformation. Divorce is not an all-purpose solution, and it often creates long-term heartache. A broad-based international study of the levels of happiness before and after “major life events” found that, on average, persons are far more successful in recovering their level of happiness after the death of a spouse than after a divorce. Spouses who hope that divorce will resolve conflicts often find that it aggravates them, since the complexities that follow divorce—especially where there are children—generate new conflicts.”

This past week we discussed divorce and the many different aspects that accompany that. I decided to do some research on the topic because it is not something that I am super familiar with. My parents have been married for many years and a good majority of my friends parents have been married for many years. For this reason I am pulling material from a talk by Dallin H. Oaks entitled “Divorce” to help me out a little bit.

As I was researching this material I came to a couple of different conclusions. The first one has to do with the first quote that I have posted at the top. It talks about there being situations in which divorce is necessary. I would agree with that because I do believe that there are certain situations in which it is very necessary, whether it be because a spouse is unfaithful or because they’re abusive. I do think there are many situations that fall under this and I do believe that there are times when divorce is necessary. If you are in a situation in which your spouse has been cheating or is being abusive then like Elder Oaks said, there is a reason to an end of a terrible situation.

However with that being said I also think there are many situations in which divorce may just seem like the easy solution to a fixable problem. I have seen this problem in society today where the two people just think that their relationship is damaged beyond repair and the easy way out is to walk away from it. It is very sad to think we live in a society today where this is a common thing and it is generally accepted by everybody. I think Elder Oaks said it best when he said that the solution to this problem is humility and repentance. Many of these problems are caused by selfishness that one or the other or both are unwilling to overcome. If we could only realize the damage that this causes emotionally for all involved, I think we would be more willing to work through it.

I am grateful to have been born to a family where my parents set such a great example of love and working through problems. Their example will shape how my relationship with my future wife is and I can never thank them enough for that. Lets all work together through our problems when we are able to and allow our families to grow stronger and closer through problems, not apart.


The Most Rewarding Job

“The home … is the workshop where human characters are built and the manner in which they are formed depends upon the relationship existing between parents and the children. The home cannot be what it should be unless these relationships are of the proper character. Whether they are so or not depends, it is true, upon both parents and children, but much more upon parents. They must do their best.”

– Joseph Fielding Smith

“Fathers and mothers, your foremost responsibility is your family. By working together you can have the kind of home the Lord expects you to have. By showing love and consideration for one another and for your children, you can build a reservoir of spiritual strength that will never run dry.”

– Spencer W. Kimball

Today I wanted to talk about something that is very near and dear to my heart. Last week we discussed parenting and the important role they play in their children’s lives and I was overcome with emotion as I thought about my parents and what a great job they’ve done at being parents. I have 3 siblings and I by no means imagine that we were easy to raise. I think each one of my siblings and I have made it difficult on our parents at some point and in some way or another we have done something that has stressed them out. However I am humbled to think about the patience they have shown with us as we have gone through our teenage years and grown into adults. I know it wasn’t easy but I am grateful to think that I have had their example so that I can raise my own children in a similar manner someday.

I have two quotes at the top that I think are important for all of us to remember. I was reading through some old talks by some of the General Authorities and I realized that there is a similar thing when it comes to great parents. All great parents have an unwavering love for their children. As I pondered just how powerful that unwavering love was I realized just how difficult that can be sometimes. Like I mentioned above I don’t think raising my siblings and I was exactly easy. I think most parents will come to a general consensus that being a parent is extremely hard. However as I have gotten older I have realized the sacrifice my parents gave so my siblings and I could be raised in a great and loving home. I have very fond memories of my time at home and when I left home for the first time, it was difficult because of the great relationship that I had developed with my family.

I think we live in a society today that really undervalues the family in general. It seems like every where I look there is something that is trying to tear down and destroy this unit that has been provided by our Heavenly Father for our happiness. It makes me sad to think that not all families are as close as mine because I don’t know what I would do without those relationships in my life. When parents raise their children with love and with good core values it allows the children to grow up and want to have that with their future families as well. I think it turns into a cycle and that cycle can either be a great one or it can be a nasty one. If we allow our families to be raised in such a manner that our children grow up and do the same for their kids someday then I think we can say we are in a successful family cycle.

It takes a lot of effort but I know that if we do this and follow the example of great parents around the world that our kids will raise their kids in a similar manner. That itself is the world that I want to live in.


Slide Design – Nike, Witness Greatness Campaign


Hey Everyone! I am back again with another project with my Visual Design class. The past couple of weeks we have been using all of the programs we have learned over the semester into what seems like a Final Project. For two weeks we recreated one of our favorite advertisements that we had seen and the past two weeks we have been designing a slide show to show off what we have learned.

Slide Show

Overall Design

While creating this ad I wanted it to resemble the original one with LeBron James. The reason I was drawn to this ad was because of the simplicity and I think that is something that I have always loved about Nike. They never overdo it with their ads and it always shows the athletes rising to greatness. Another reason I loved this ad was because of the faded look they give their athletes. In one sentence you know that you are seeing history and that one day we are going to talk about the athlete as one of the all time greats. While creating mine I wanted to show a similar thing with Gordon Hayward. Every season he has become a better player and I feel like the mantra “We Are All Witnesses” was very fitting.

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In closing I feel like these programs are great and have many different uses. Being able to use them to create my own ad for a school project and having it be of one of my favorite players in the NBA was very rewarding and I enjoyed it very much. I hope that I was able to embody the same message Nike was trying to convey to their consumers.

Works Cited

Gordon Hayward Image – Google Images – Gordon Hayward

Lebron James Ad – Google Images – Lebron James Nike Ad

These images were simply used for a school project and all of the rights belong to their respected owners. Thanks!



I figured this would be fitting considering the fact Fathers Day was a few short weeks ago. This week in class was rewarding because it reminded me of a lot of things that I have already known for a really long time. One of those things was the fact that the role of Fathers is being diminished today. It seems like society is progressively gaining a worse and worse view of the importance of Fathers. This is inherently obvious on TV and Movies being released today. I can think of multiple TV shows and movies that show a Father that is incapable and unable to accomplish what he needs to accomplish in the role of being a Father. They are put down and looked upon poorly by the society around us today. The second thing I learned from class today was how wrong this is and how important Fathers really are. They play a critical role in the family and they are here to provide and protect their families. It seems like the view that society has is inherently wrong and incorrect when it comes to how they should review the role of a Father.

I have been blessed throughout my life with a Father that destroys any typical stereotype that is rampant in society today. He is hard working and caring and has guided me in more ways than I will ever be able to describe. He has taught me how to be a better man and overall has guided me through some of the more difficult trials of my life. It is funny because going through High School I wasn’t always willing to listen to what he had to say. My parents would give me advice and I would generally brush it off because I figured I knew what I was doing. However as I began my mission I realized what great advice my parents would have. Especially my Father because he had served a mission himself and had experienced a lot of the same things that I was experiencing at the time. My father has been a great example to me on how I should raise my own kids someday. I know that if I follow the example that he set for me that I will be able to be a great father like he has been.

The next thing I wanted to discuss was my Grandfathers because of what a great job they did raising my parents. I know this post is directed towards Fathers but I think it is important to note my Mother as well. She has had just as big a part in my life as my Father has had and I know a lot of that can be explained due to the fact that she had a wonderful Father in her life. He is just as large a part of my life has my own Father has been and I can thank both of my Grandfathers when it comes to my parents because of what a wonderful job they did raising my parents.

I honestly cannot imagine my life without all of their influences. I would be a completely different person and I wouldn’t be half the man I am today. Their example is a shining example of how important Fathers are in our society today. I have personally seen what an influence they make on me and I know the influence all Fathers have on their children around the world today. Let us make sure that we are doing everything we can to live up to the great example of so many Fathers around the world today. If we do then we will be sure to have happier and more loving families.

The Importance of Family Council

Ever since I was a child I have created many memories of something called Family Council. These have always been councils we had as our family debated major changes that could potentially be coming to our lives in the next couple of months. One particular Family Council that comes to mind happened when I was 15, when my Father came home from work to tell us that he had received a job offer that would be taking us from our home in Syracuse, UT to the unknown land of Frisco, TX.

I was unsure as how I should react to this because I wanted nothing to do with Texas. I had spent the last 5 years of my life in Utah and was very comfortable with how everything was going. I remember it was a Monday night that my Father asked us to sit down so that we could discuss this potential move. He had done this with every move that we had had previous but this was the first one that I was old enough to feel like really effected me in a big way. The last move we had done had been when we moved from Washington to Utah and I was only 10 years old and hadn’t put down roots like I had in Utah.

We all sat down and my Father raised the question to my siblings and I on how we felt about potentially moving to Texas. I was adamant in my response that I did not have any desire to move anywhere and I especially didn’t want to move to Texas because we had never been there before and we had no friends or family that we would be close to. My Father listened to each one of our opinions and took them into account but ultimately decided that the best move for our family would be for us to go to Texas.

This started a pattern that I noticed over the years. I don’t have any recollection of us doing anything major without talking about it as a family first. We haven’t always done what I wanted to do but I have appreciated the fact that my parents have always involved my siblings and I in those types of decisions. It wasn’t until a couple of weeks ago that I realized that this isn’t the case in many families around the world.

It seems to be more typical for families to be dominated by either the parents or the children. That either the parents are always in charge or the parents are push overs and the children run the family. There is a balance that is necessary for families to have harmony and it involves the parents and the children being equally involved on the decision making process while realizing that the parents still have the final say. Yes it is important for the kids to have a say but the parents in the end have the final say.

It seems to me that families would be much better off if they had something like this in place. It doesn’t always have to be to make major decisions but it can be used to solve issues in the family that may arise. They overall point of these councils is to discuss matters of importance in the family. It really comes down to having clear and effective communication that can allow families to grow together and overcome issues that come to the forefront.

If we do these things then all families will be placed in a position to grow together and overcome anything that comes up. All it takes is a little bit of effort and some clear concise communication.

Photoshop Advertisement


Hello Everybody! I am back with another project for my Visual Design class and for the past two weeks we have been working with Photoshop. I was excited to use this Adobe program because I thought it would be the one I was best at. However there is much more to this program than I was expecting and it has had quite the learning curve. The assignment was to design an ad for a boring piece of household or office product. I was assigned a trashcan!


Facebook Ad


Unaltered Ad

Overall Design

When I was assigned a trash can I wasn’t exactly sure where I wanted to go with the ad. I started by listing off a bunch of things and brainstorming different ideas on what would be good for selling a trash can. I wanted this to be geared towards families and realized that some houses get really messy and I wanted to aim the ad towards it being strong enough to overcome the biggest messes. From that I got the idea that a garbage can having muscles would be a clever way to show how strong the garbage can was. I blended the two images together and then used one of the Photoshop tools to make the muscles blend into the trashcan so it looked like the garbage can itself had the muscles.

Images Used



In conclusion I just wanted to say that this was a great program to use. I really enjoyed the overall aspect of what this project involved because it allowed me to become even more familiar with the different programs that Adobe contains. I feel like I have a much better understanding, not only of Photoshop but of the entire Adobe program in general.

Works Cited








Overcoming Stress

I had an interesting experience this week that I wanted to share with everybody. This week in class the topic of discussion was “The Family Under Stress” and how we can best combat the things that we are dealing with every day. We talked about little things that can cause stress but we also talked about much bigger events in our lives that can cause more stress. The discussion was engaging and I left class feeling like I would be able to apply these things into my life.

Later that day I was getting ready to register for classes for Fall Semester and I had a question for my Dad that I needed him to answer. I sent him a text and called him a couple times and didn’t hear anything back. I was getting slightly frustrated so I messaged my sister asking her if she knew where Dad was. She messaged me back and let me know that he was with my brother and other sister and asked me if I knew. I was dumbfounded and replied with a simple “Do I know what?” She then proceeded to tell me that my brother and sister had been hit by a lady going close to 60 MPH through a red light as they were going through the intersection. I was scared for 2 seconds before she let me know that they were OK and that nobody had been injured. I then proceeded to call my Mom and she told me the entire story.

The thing that I was most surprised about was how calm everybody was. There wasn’t anybody freaking out about the fact that if my brother and sister had been hit broadside then they’d probably be dead. I then realized that this was something that my parents had shown in their character for all of my life. Granted there were times when stress would get the best of them (As happens with everybody) but for the most part they’ve always shown a calm and collected manner when dealing with major events in our lives that could be perceived as negative.

When we talk about stress in our lives and things that damage a family, I think stress and our reaction to that plays a large roll in how the family grows closer together or farther apart. If you have a parent that consistently reacts to stress in a negative way (yelling, arguing, negative comments to those around them) then that is going to have two effects on the family. The first thing is that the kids will grow up dealing with stress in a similar way and the second thing is that it will tear the family apart as all are put on edge and don’t enjoy spending time around each other.

On the other hand when you have parents that are calm and they look for the good in the situation then I think that allows the family to grow closer together. That is something that I have learned from my family as we have gone through difficult situations and I think it is part of the reason why we are so close today. I feel like my family has had a lot of situations in our lives when we have been faced with a difficult situation, but every time we have gotten through it and we have generally gotten through it while growing closer together.

If only we could realize how our reaction to stressful situations would effect each and every one of the people involved. I think we would have happier families as we grew together, instead of growing apart.

Together Through The Years

The other day I was reading an article online that discussed the importance of parents continuing to have time together after having children come into their lives. I guess every night after 9 PM the parents would send their kids upstairs for at least an hour so that they could continue to have time together and develop their personal relationship. I thought this was interesting because you would imagine that parents spend a lot of time together throughout the day but how often do they get to spend quality time together just talking about their day? I would say that it isn’t often they get to sit down and talk about how they’re doing and the things going on in their lives.

The reason I thought it was interesting was because when people are dating, they often times spend so much time getting to know each other and spend time together and falling in love. However it is a very normal thing that once children come into their lives or some other type of time consuming activity occurs (job, church callings, etc) that they quit spending time together developing their relationship.

Which brings me to what I wanted to talk about this week. Why people need to continue to build their relationship through the years and not just during that time dating before they get married. I was reminded of a movie that I had the opportunity to watch during my sophomore year of High School. We had been discussing mental illnesses and this movie in particular showed the effects that depression and suicide can have on a family. Towards the end of the movie it shows the parents discussing their relationship after their daughter had passed away and they both decided that they were going to get divorced because once their daughter was gone they just felt like they didn’t have anything in common anymore. That for so many years their main reason for being together had been because their daughter was in their lives and that once she was gone they felt like they didn’t know each other and no longer had a reason to go through life together.

Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t want this to seem like I am discouraging parents from having kids. I know that having kids within the means of marriage are a huge blessing and they can strengthen families. I just know that if couples don’t continue to build their relationship once they’re married then the marriage is going to struggle and in extreme cases it can end in divorce.

There are always going to be things that come up and distract or pull marriages apart. That is just part of the world that we live in today. That is why it is so important for us to continue to develop those sacred relationships as we grow old and go through the struggles of life together. It reminds me of this quote by Russel M. Nelson.

“Meanwhile, mortal misunderstandings can make mischief in marriage. In fact, each marriage starts with two built-in handicaps. It involves two imperfect people. Happiness can come to them only through their earnest effort. Just as harmony comes from an orchestra only when its members make a concentrated effort, so harmony in marriage also requires a concerted effort. That effort will succeed in each partner will minimize personal demands and maximize actions of loving selflessness.”

I know that as people continue to develop their relationships throughout the challenges of life that they will be able to have successful marriages and happy families. It just takes a little bit more effort than you may have been expecting. The Lord expects our marriages to work out but He also knows how much work those successful and happy marriages take. Lets make sure we are doing everything we can to either continue building our marriages or preparing ourselves for the marriages that await us.


Christmas Icons


Hello Everyone! This week in the Visual Design section of my blog I am going to be talking about the icons that I have been making with the Illustrator program that Adobe offers. This post is going to be really similar to the Magazine Spread post that I made a couple of weeks ago. This class is really geared around these programs and it has been good to be learning these programs for future use. Once again this was another program that I had absolutely no experience with! However I think I fared far better this time when it came to figuring out what I needed to do and what I needed to learn. This  The last two weeks our teacher assigned us the task of creating 4 icons that centered around a certain topic of our choice. I decided on Christmas because I felt like it was something that adults and children could relate to and would enjoy seeing.


Overall Design

As far as the overall design goes, I wanted to focus on Christmas because it was something that I felt like everybody could relate to. I think when people see Christmas they are filled with warm feelings and happy memories and it brings them back to either their childhood or family times. The shapes used for all the characters were similar and I wanted to model the faces in a similar manor as to show the consistency of the icons. I debated on a couple of different designs. My early designs had full bodies but I decided that they would be better suited as icons if they had simply their heads. As far as the colors go, I decided that I wanted them to be warm and welcoming. I just feel like there is a certain warmth that comes from Christmas and I wanted that to be replicated in every aspect of these icons. As for my target audience, I really wanted to gear these towards children. I think children are the driving force behind Christmas a lot of the time and I feel like they are the ones that really get the parents excited about Christmas. That is why I wanted to gear these towards kids everywhere.


In closing I decided that this entire project was enjoyable as well as a great learning experience. I really hadn’t ever had the opportunity to use this program and I noticed that there were a lot of similarities between using Illustrator and InDesign. I hope everybody is able to see the theme and meaning behind these icons. They were enjoyable to make and I feel like the theme is something that everybody would be able to identity with and relate to.

Preparing for the M-Word… Marriage

Marriage marriage marriage… Seems to be on everybody’s minds these days! Just the other day I was scrolling through my Facebook feed and I noticed what a unique time in my life this was. Gone are the days of Facebook when I would scroll through and see friends from High School just hanging out and enjoying summer. These days my news feed is dominated by posts of happy couples who have recently gotten engaged or married. A few of them have even announced pregnancies.

Overall it is a very happy time for my friends and myself included! It has been great seeing childhood friends meet the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with and attending their weddings. Last summer was great because two of my best friends got married to their best friends and have spent the past year adjusting to life as married couples. It has been good to watch them and learn but more importantly I was able to watch them and see what they did to prepare for their respective marriages.

It brought my thought process to what I need to be doing in order to prepare for marriage. I had a couple questions run through my head as I was pondering this. What makes some people more prepared for marriage than others? What were those people doing to be more prepared? What can I do to be preparing myself for whenever I get married? This is what I decided upon.

In the many different weddings I had the opportunity of attending last year I noticed a similar thing in every sealing that I was attending. The sealer would look at the happy couple and he would say “I want you both to kneel down tonight and pray together. The happiest marriages are the ones that start with God and include Him in every aspect of their lives.” As I heard this from each sealer, I realized that all of my friends getting married had prepared themselves spiritually and had done so diligently. They had often times started long before they were engaged in reading the scriptures together and praying together.

This brought me back to another experience that I had had during my time in the MTC. I was sitting in one of my classes and our instructor looked at us and told us that in order for converts to truly be converted that they needed to be well taught but more importantly they needed to develop a relationship with their Heavenly Father. She then continued to tell us that it is similar to a triangle and that God should be the top point of that triangle. I think that applies in marriages as well. When you start to date somebody seriously and it begins to lead towards marriage then Heavenly Father needs to be that main point between the two of you. Just as it was between myself and the people I taught the gospel.

In conclusion I think this is how people can best prepare themselves for marriage. There just seems to be a trend that when couples grow close together while involving God then He is going to look down upon them and bless them in every aspect of their marriage. It starts today though, I think every person needs to prepare themselves spiritually. Then when you meet that person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you integrate them into your relationship with God and in doing so your relationship with that person will be even stronger because you already have a strong relationship with your Heavenly Father.