Marriage marriage marriage… Seems to be on everybody’s minds these days! Just the other day I was scrolling through my Facebook feed and I noticed what a unique time in my life this was. Gone are the days of Facebook when I would scroll through and see friends from High School just hanging out and enjoying summer. These days my news feed is dominated by posts of happy couples who have recently gotten engaged or married. A few of them have even announced pregnancies.
Overall it is a very happy time for my friends and myself included! It has been great seeing childhood friends meet the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with and attending their weddings. Last summer was great because two of my best friends got married to their best friends and have spent the past year adjusting to life as married couples. It has been good to watch them and learn but more importantly I was able to watch them and see what they did to prepare for their respective marriages.
It brought my thought process to what I need to be doing in order to prepare for marriage. I had a couple questions run through my head as I was pondering this. What makes some people more prepared for marriage than others? What were those people doing to be more prepared? What can I do to be preparing myself for whenever I get married? This is what I decided upon.
In the many different weddings I had the opportunity of attending last year I noticed a similar thing in every sealing that I was attending. The sealer would look at the happy couple and he would say “I want you both to kneel down tonight and pray together. The happiest marriages are the ones that start with God and include Him in every aspect of their lives.” As I heard this from each sealer, I realized that all of my friends getting married had prepared themselves spiritually and had done so diligently. They had often times started long before they were engaged in reading the scriptures together and praying together.
This brought me back to another experience that I had had during my time in the MTC. I was sitting in one of my classes and our instructor looked at us and told us that in order for converts to truly be converted that they needed to be well taught but more importantly they needed to develop a relationship with their Heavenly Father. She then continued to tell us that it is similar to a triangle and that God should be the top point of that triangle. I think that applies in marriages as well. When you start to date somebody seriously and it begins to lead towards marriage then Heavenly Father needs to be that main point between the two of you. Just as it was between myself and the people I taught the gospel.
In conclusion I think this is how people can best prepare themselves for marriage. There just seems to be a trend that when couples grow close together while involving God then He is going to look down upon them and bless them in every aspect of their marriage. It starts today though, I think every person needs to prepare themselves spiritually. Then when you meet that person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you integrate them into your relationship with God and in doing so your relationship with that person will be even stronger because you already have a strong relationship with your Heavenly Father.